Mr Right or Just Mr Right now ?

So often in life we settle for what we can get rather than what we really want.


I'm at work, just after Black Friday...........
 not the best time of year to be in the Timeshare sales industry.
 Definitely the worst time for marketing for this industry.

It's said to be a success in sales all you have to do is talk to a lot of people,

what is potentially exciting about that is there are lots of people.

Now don't get me wrong,

 I understand that for every sale you miss because of your enthusiasm,

 you miss a hundred more from lacking enthusiasm. 

It's hard to be enthusiastic about a 40 something woman

 with disheveled hair and an English accent (unless she's in your bed, lol),

But, when it's your only customer for the day ....on a SATURDAY !!
Lawd help us !!!

I'm questioning the viability of this job.
There is no passion to be found in playing small,
just settling for a life that's less than the one you are capable of living.

Regret has a way of staring you in the face ......

I think the greater danger is in not aiming too high.
In life like in golf why settle for a bogey when you can shoot for an eagle.
Two words that nevered settled well with me are maturity and content.
I think they 'spell' decay ......

Obviously stymied by my 'right now' choice of employment ........
I've turned too the lovely and talented aspiring blogger Holly Arland
 for her take on this topic based on her experience.

Saddling up, settling down, or just settling?

Mr. Right, Mr. Wrong, or Mr. Right now?

Why does this cowgirl read the body language of a 1200 lb majestic creature,
 but sees the body language of a man as a foreign ?

 Is the man as confused by the signals that emanate from him  ?

 Is it the distance he sets, the moral he lacks,

 or the sexy scent he puts off that confuses me?

Horses lack the capability of being deceitful for personal gain

 but have a sense of survival most humans thirst for !

 People seem to lack the moralistic capability of honesty and loyalty. 

So how is a high - minded woman like  myself supposed to identify

 Mr. Right, Mr. Wrong, Mr. Right Now

 or

My, Mr. after 9 years  going to leave you alone in a world.....

A world which was created for two…. by two ?

What qualities prevail over the others? 

How do I rope a cowboy who will, compliment and balance me?

 What scale do I use? 

Am I searching for what's nonexistent or undeserved by yours truly? 

What is the definition of settling? 

Do I settle for the first thing that trots this way,
 like a horse with no gait? 

It's an ugly, uncomfortable ride . 

  Can I break a man like a wild horse and eventually call him my cowboy?

 What's the difference between settling for less
and compromising oneself?

 Forget settling down I am saddling up….
 Where are my boots??

My BFFL Gabby says....

Whether it be with work or romance,
everybody expects there to always be a right answer or "Mr. Right".

 When you take a look back and try to explain how you got where you
are there is no straight and narrow road.

 Life is full of mistakes and experiences and its not those situations that can answer your questions but how you reacted and your attitude.

 People like to blame Mr. Wrong on the man himself,
 but obviously what he does works for him and what he is trying to accomplish.

 Mr. Right Now is a forced action.

 They are the person that is placed in front of you
when you are looking for something specific.
 The funny thing about life is
 that the best things happen when they are least expected.

 Stop looking!!!

 Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now are a figurative concept imagined by people who feel that there questions always have to have an answer.

 Focus on yourself and things you love; your job, riding horses, martial arts, golf ...

Build yourself up and not what you are looking for, but what you need will just appear.
 Don't spend your life wondering or worrying spend your life living.

 When you are ready life will know.

The Grinch who Sold Timeshare

Did you ever notice Tinkerbell and the Grinch look similar ?

They could be related, just sayin'.

She does have those enhanced 'laugh lines',

 from years of trading away her humility

 'trick', by 'trick',

under the spell of 'the liquid muse'........

Leave it to me to say or write 'the wrong thing'....Ha ha !

Don't pick on the pixie !!!

I was bored as hell at work the other day and a friend joked that I had a 'Devilish grin'

My response was something about the Grinch and this story was born.

The Grinch that Sold Timeshare

The Grinch is a bitter, grouchy, cave dwelling creature from Wells, Maine.

His heart was two sizes to small and his only companions were his dogs:

 Meeka, Spiff and Dollar.

From his perch high atop Mt. Agamenticus the Grinch could hear the noisy activities

at the 84 Main Resort in Kennebunk. This annoyed the Grinch and he set out to 

stop the mooches from wasting the sales rep, Lucy Loos'  time.

He crudely disguises himself as a sales manager,

 and sets off to steal the 'gifts' and snacks,

 load them into his sleigh, and bring them back to his perch

to dump them all into the abyss.

As the sun set on Lucy Loos' 3 hour tour, he expects to hear the mooches

bitter sorrowful cries, but is confused to hear them singing a joyous song instead.

Yup, the 'song' of buying questions !!!

He 'puzzles' for a moment until it dawns upon him, perhaps there is more to this

mooches visit than just a quest for gifts and free food.

 This mooch might BUY something.

The Grinch's shrunken heart suddenly grows three times larger.

Lucy Loo turned the table over to the Grinch.
 The Grinch proceeds to work a series of nose bleed price drops, to no avail. 

The mooch owned timeshare, a campground membership,
 an RV, had kids in college,  a vacation home, and were renovating a home,
while raising their grand kids because their kids were on drugs.
 They were buying a new home and couldn't have a 'hit' on their credit.
They were recieving cancer treatments, having surgeries
 and taking care of their sick handicaped mother !!

If they'd have seen this program at a different time...
when their grand kids weren't so young,
there children didn't need so much help with their young children
and they weren't so old this would've been perfect for them. 

They did say though if the Grinch gave them a copy of the paperwork
 that they'd have their attorney, accountant and financial advisor review it.
At that point they'd discuss it with their kids and they'd be back.

On the bright side they said that their sales rep little Lucy Loo
 did a great job, they didn't mind the view of the Sunoco station
and that they learned a lot and had fun.

 SO MUCH FOR MY DAY OFF !

Thank goodness the marketing company

 will only invite them back twice a year !!

Afraid of the Dark

I can easily forgive a child that is afraid of the dark,

but not a person afraid of the light.

You Definitely don't fit the height requirement to ride this emotional roller coaster.
People have long known the road to success is not easy.
It is contingent on not quitting, just like fitness and Martial Arts.

It is better to have heart with out words than
to have words. without heart.
Don't just say it, do it.

Learned helplessness is the new social norm.
It's the belief that what ever you do doesn't matter.
Each of us has the capacity to make a difference.

Quitting is always the easiest way.
You are promised nothing but opportunity.
what you do with that opportunity is up to you.
It starts with genuine effort (heart) and a willingness to
Never, never, never quit.

I'm not foolish, using the knife from MY back, i've taken and
  severed the cord to the past and the why ?
There will always be foolish pretenders that will cross your path.

I remember one of my Karate instructors telling me we didn't need to learn 
how to fall or fight on the ground because our punches and kicks were so devastating.
Then came the U.F.C.

Second place is the first loser.

One of the things that always has cracked me up is when a girl or guy
tries too be a supporter of a sports team they know or care nothing about 
to try to be more 'supportive' in a relationship.
I think the saying goes 'Fake it till you make it'.

Really ?????

Relationships are  like sales .......
stay away from  politics, sports and religion.

 If you really possess the attributes to make a relationship work it'll work with out you 
FAKING IT !!!

In sales and Martial Arts, superior product knowledge is key.
A bottomless 'tool box' is an invaluable asset. 
In two weeks my boss goes on vacation with his family.
I am blessed with the opportunity of working with the V.P. of Sales
of my company for the weekend.

I've got more experience than he does X 2,
but there is a reason he's a V.P. of a $30,000,000. company
 and I'm only a sales mgr. 
This is an opportunity to look into the heart and mind of  
'stone cold, pipe hittin closer' !

Aproaching life with an open heart and an open mind, 
accepting rejection and making people feel important is key in sales,
 life, love and fitness / martial arts.

It's said the average person spends 5 hours a day watching the computer 
or T.V. each day, these same people don't have time to go for a walk,
go to the gym or Dojo. Get up, get out, get over it !

The devil is in the details.
Gathering of information is called discovery.
Knowing how and when to use what you've discovered is sales mastery.
Paying attention to detail in life / love without being reminded
 is seen as 'sweet' and caring.

A genuine leader leader is not a searcher for consensus
but a molder of consensus.

Martin Luther King Jr.

The Quest for Equanimity

Few are capable of expressing with equanimity

opinions which differ from the

prejudices of their own social environment.

-Albert Einstein-

The latin aequanimitas, means to have an even mind;
aequusan  even animus  mind/soul is a state of psychological stability
and composure which is undisturbed by experience of or exposure to
emotions, pain, or other phenomena that may cause OTHERS 
to loose the balance of their mind.
The virtue and value of equanimity is extolled and advocated 
by a number of ancient religions and martial art masters.


Joe Lewis would speak of Bruce Lee entering a sort of 'alpha state' 
during intense moments of there training together.

I have been busy with a great new job in an industry that I love,
The practice of equanimity allows you to consistently create outstanding results
while keeping a level head at work or in your life.

Being lied to by a friend or a customer, or having them 'twist your words'
to serve their own agenda used to give me that 'stomach thing' and I would just walk away because that person isn't worth my time.
Really though, what was happening was I was handing them a personal victory .


A sale is made at every table or in each situation,
them, or me....

My recent liberation from social media has been beneficial in helping
to cleanse the mind/soul of the attutudes and opinions of
KEYBOARD WARRIORS.

Is Good Enough the New Perfect

True happiness...

 is not attained through self-gratification,

 but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.

-Helen Keller-

Who can create anything when only perfect is good enough ?

Once you acknowledge you aren't perfect and that your life isn't perfect after all

it becomes acceptable to simply be you in all your glorious imperfection.

Embracing imperfection is a kinder gentler way to live.

I haven't given up on my quest for excellence but...

 I'm a strong believer that going for 'good enough' leads to

 alot more  happiness than going for 'perfect'.

Being a commission sales person and a perfectionist is potentially lethal...LOL

Perfection is not attainable,

but if we chase it we can attain excellence.

-Vince Lombardi-

Have you ever tried to repair a glass vase or something equally precious that had fallen and smashed on the floor? Those hundreds of bits and pieces form an almost impossible puzzle and it is only through hours of patience and determination that you can almost repair the vessel. Once repaired, it is never the same as it was before. Water leaks through the cracks, edges are rough and uneven. This is because you are trying to restore the broken item to its original state which is impossible. The good news is that with a little creativity you can do so much more! Each little piece, when examined alone is seen for its own unique beauty. Together they can be used to build a new work of art, different to the first. I've seen beautiful art works where bits of glass were used to make mosaics, collages, mirrors, picture frames, and much more. Who could even tell what their original purpose had been?

 Would I have been that impressed with the glass chip when it was still part of a plate or window?

 Yet I marveled at its beauty as it hung proudly on a gallery wall.

In the past 24 months, I've had to pick up the pieces of a shattered life and recover from a some of the most painful moments in my life. One by one I held broken pieces up to the light, trying to figure out where they belonged. Turning them this way and that, I struggled to fit them back into their original places to restore the person I once had been. Every now and then I'd spot a glint of sunlight reflecting off a sharp shard and I'd throw it away. Then at times, I'd find a piece that was different and I'd realize that this little piece was lovely. After almost a year of fruitless effort, I've come to the realization that the person I once had been can never be restored to his original state. But God has blessed me with a unique opportunity to take all these lovely little pieces and to build someone new. Little bits and pieces of me, that were invisible in the past, are now given a chance to shine.

It is painful to have your life shattered and it may seem impossible to pick up those pieces. Sometimes we don't even know where to start. Any form of repair and reconstruction is a long process. But friends, know that it is also an opportunity to re-invent yourself to become the person you would like to be. It is a unique opportunity to look closely at the beautiful bits of you. To hold them up to the light and appreciate the way they shine. Don't waste time trying to rebuild the past, rather appreciate this wonderful gift and build a whole new future! One that you would proudly hang on a gallery wall.

-John Hall-

The I Team

Goodbye Team Halo & DV365

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xuY84XPVCg

I am a member of a team, 

 I rely on the team,

I defer to it and sacrifice for it,

 because the team, not the individual,

 is the ultimate champion.

-Mia Hamm-

Team JLFS Memorial workout Sept 2012

 I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment

 and life’s greatest rewards is reserved for those who demonstrate

 a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve.

  This level of resolve can move mountains,

 but it must be constant and consistent.

 As simplistic as this may sound,

 it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams

from those who live in regret. 

-Anthony Robbins-

 Team HALO Arlington Va. April 2012

I've been told that I have two lives...........
One of them is on the road with Team HALO.

We are a podium sales company ....

Road Warriors traveling 40 weeks a year !!!

Yesterday I lost one of my lives

We are only immortal in the moment we are in.

The moment we are in contains our past

and the potential and possibility for the future.

A future that may or may not arrive.

 Team HALO Ft Collins, CO. March 2012

The needs of the many

outweigh the needs of the few or the one.

- The Death of Spock-

You Talk to Much

Have you begun a conversation with someone expecting a dialogue

 and discover the partner in this dialogue is engaging in a monologue?

What differentiates us from animals is that we can listen to others dreams,

 fears, joys, sorrows, desires and defeats and they can listen to ours,

    Let every person be quick to hear,
 slow to speak, slow to anger.
-James 1:19-

Good listening skills are important in life and in sales.
Monopolizing a conversation  makes others uncomfortable, even agitated.
 It negatively impacts establishing rapport or a common bond with a prospect.

Communication is the key ingredient in a healthy relationship,

 behind effective communication is the skill of being a good listener,

even when your partner says something hurtful or that you don't agree with.

Trust your Trainer (Joe Lewis)

 Listen to your trainer and don't allow your ego to dictate your actions.
This all boils down to following directions.
 Trust your trainer, do what he says.
Don't fall into the trap of letting your ego override your strategy.

Listen !!!
Self-esteem gives rise to self-confidence;

not the other way around.

A coach must understand this process to develop a student’s
level of consciousness.

Consciousness is one’s ultimate survival tool in a real altercation,

not some technique or style of martial arts.

For a fighter,
the authority of one’s will is their ultimate attribute.

-Joe Lewis-

I can see clearly now

People may have certain knowledge,

but remain totally unaware of how to use it.

 

I see this in both martial arts marketing and in fighting.

 

To me it is all about two things, attitude and approach.

If one is off, this can automatically defuse or negate the other.

 

 A great system of marketing or fighting is only as good as the implementation of a proper psychology (with its practice) behind it.

 

-Joe Lewis-

Fitness First

If you look good you'll feel good.
Learn to be proud of your own body.

If you allow the judgement of other people to affect the way you view your own body you will quickly become just like them.

 Take your health and fitness into your own hands,
 be proud of your accomplishment.

You’ve got to be satisfied with your body and building a great physique has to be a positive and motivating experience.
You only get one body and the effect it can have on your life is too important to leave your satisfaction up to the feedback of others.

Visualize yourself the way you want to look,
or employing a skill your trying to learn.

This really does make all the difference.

 Believe that you can do it.

Visualize a real-life situation where you are using the skill.
  Imagine the sense of accomplishment you’ll feel.
It's a great way to motivate yourself when you feel like giving up.

In fighting violence is rarely the answer,but when it's the only answer physical preparedness is paramount.
 
If you are truly threatened your technique must produce injury.
An injury can be to the sensory system or a structural destruction.

You need to be psychologically prepared to assert the authority of your will with violence of action.

 The two worst strategic mistakes to make are acting prematurely and letting an opportunity slip;

 to avoid this, the warrior treats each situation as if it were unique and never resorts to formulae,
 recipes or other people's opinions.

-Paulo Coelho-