One door closes

When you try to tackle one change or goal your success rate is over 80%. 

When you try to tackle multiple changes/goals your success rate drops to less than 35%. 

WITH STATISTICS LIKE THAT I'D SAY ONE DOOR AT A TIME, ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Today marked the begining of our 630am 'Primal Crawl' class.

1st day and it was a success !

Success is waking up each morning and consciously deciding today will be the best day of your life. You can't change the past, but you can change perspective.

I think it;s all about knocking on doors, taking a chance. By activating a perspective change and just showing up all things become possible.

If you don’t consciously choose Faith, Trust and Love in each moment, your subconscious 'default settings' will choose for you, and that choice is made by the Ego and it usually chooses Hope and Fear..

 At Fearless Family Martial Arts we free people from their concerns; Health,Fitness, Nutrition and Fun ....we always have Fun. take a chance on Faith this year join our journey

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At a gym or on your own you can only Hope your fitness plan will work

    It's easy and comfortable to think you're eating healthy "most of the time."

It's easy and comfortable to just buy the gym membership. 

Easy is comfortable. 

No change is made while being comfortable.

Beyond Perception

I always thought it was important to leave an indelible mark on the world, 

out live myself, leave my influence on eternity with the gifts I'd been given..

 Whether it was martial arts, sales,acting or stunts.

Within me the whole time was the answer to change the life of a student.

In December of 2017 I realized I was sacrificing my happiness in pursuit of a dream.

I've been listening to talks by T.D. Jakes, Jim Carey, Mike Murdock, Ziglar and Tony Robbins.

You'll find some of their inspirational 'one liners' buried in these blogs as I move forward in 2018 trying to replace my 'mighty pen/keyboard with a kinder gentler 'quill keyboard'.Through this achieving greater inner value not just my outer value. I hold the pen that writes the story of my life. Let's try to leave Fear and Resentment in 2017 and let the light of our best selves shine through.

Fear says please don't leave me behind because I have abandoned myself.

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger.

Don't let fear or insecurity stop you from trying new things.

 Believe in yourself. Leave Ego behind. Do what you love......With Love ! !

If there is no enemy within 

the enemy outside can do us no harm

African proverb

In our fitness and martial arts classes,the team nurtures each new challenge participant to dig within to discover what they would like to have happen in their life. This helps you to move from pissed off, regretful, disrespected or insignificant to having a purposeful life.

Fear of the unknown is the oldest and most powerful emotion.

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you face fear. 

In life you don't get what you want you get what you are.

 You deserve the best life has to offer.

It's better do be prepared for an opportunity that never happens than to have an opportunity and not be prepared. Practice makes improvement not perfect.

 Practice with us we'll get better together !!

You won't find this in the gym, but you will in the Dojo 

If you can look up  you can get up , walk by Faith through our door 

 Don't just Hope to achieve your dreams at the gym or on your diet.

Remember your going to die some day anyway what do you have to loose.

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The Ripple Effect

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

Having left last year, partial fulfillment and complacency behind me, I woke this morning from a dreamless sleep to find this message.

Happy New Year! Thank you Robb for putting out a survey on FB that I took at 2 AM, 6 months ago! Not knowing at the time, but I signed up for something truly special. For the first time in many years, my New Years Resolution is not to exercise more, be healthier, blah blah blah.... instead it is to look forward to 2018 and what it will bring!

Most of us live our lives trapped in thought. Thought and negative emotion are illusory things and can act as a trap for the advancement of ourselves. How cool is it that this student found a new reality free from concern. Full of Faith not Hope. Weight loss, winning or losing the next fight, fitness goals are all just part of 'the ride'.

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To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one's family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one's own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.

 Buddha

The picture book

2017

Broke me, Matured me, Whooped my ass, Humbled me, Blessed me,
And made me one hell of a savage!  Best of all Awakened me.
Thank you for the Best WORST year of my entire life!

This month was an awakening experience. 

Tomorrow starts 2018 a 365 day blank book for you to write in. At Fearless Family Martial Arts we free people from their concerns; Health,Fitness, Nutrition and Fun ....we always have Fun. take a chance on Faith this year join our journey

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At a gym or on your own you can only Hope your fitness plan will work

    It's easy and comfortable to think you're eating healthy "most of the time."

It's easy and comfortable to just buy the gym membership. 

Easy is comfortable. 

No change is made while being comfortable.

 Hope walks through the fire while Faith leaps over it. Not Hope but Faith.
We will open the door to your dreams, you just need to have the Faith to walk through.
In your life you only have two choices love and fear. Choose to love and be FEARLESS.

I was a 'deleter'. Deleting pictures, messages, blocking on social media was a habit I've had for years. It was my way of 'taking out the trash' in my head and in my life. While writing a story the other day, in my usual fashion using words as weapons and the pen/keyboard as a sword, I had to search for a picture....but it was gone. DELETED.

Growing up my parents would show slides from events we experienced as a family.
A kind of slide show of life.
I sure didn't expect to have a 'slide show moment', but I did.

Our ability to remember forms the basis of who we are. Memory is our past and future.

To know who you are as a person, you need to know where you've been.

Your remembered life is a good guide to what you will do tomorrow. 'Our memory is our coherence' When we lose memory we lose a piece of who we are.

     I clicked through hundreds of pictures, reliving experiences as if they just happened.

True love confessions on a cold rainy beach at night, 'cake by the ocean',

divorce court selfies with tear stained smiling faces,

 out door training sessions with students past and present when the beach was our dojo,

flooding hotel rooms with hot tubs, The best birthday 'cake' ever,

Edible arrangements showing up 'just in time', 'movie moment gift giving',

and 'Saving a Starfish'.

Funny, in the Dojo as an up and coming fighter I was known as 'Wrecking Ball. On the mat now I'm like a damn rolodex of Martial Arts knowledge a Kyoshi, 'Teacher of Teachers'.

In life, not so much. I was a deleter, an actor playing a role, just a wave in the ocean.

Ego is the voice in your head that tells you your not good enough, just a drop in the ocean.

I've since learned that the wave is the ocean and so am I.

We're already complete we are already good enough once we realize this suffering ends.

We are not the avitars we create, we are not the pictures we collect , we are the light that shines through.them We would do well to remember,

Life doesn't happen to you, It happens for you. 

See you in class

Heroes and villains

The Dojo is a spiritual 'safe haven' for me, it always has been . But tonight something was different. The Greeks describe the feeling as 'The Mati' , The evil eye is a curse believed to be cast by a malevolent glare, usually given to a person when they are unaware and will cause misfortune or injury. Man,  It's nights like these that make you wanna sleep all day and the sad songs don't help
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 Imagination is a powerful thing and can work for you or against you, depending on whether your outlook is positive or negative I'm trying to allow myself to be guided by the visions that inspire the words this week.

It's the worst at night. I could just drive.....I've got a half a tank.

I know the way you think affects the way you feel and the way you feel creates the circumstances you attract so I always aspire to think good thoughts. But our thoughts can be heroes and villains.

Glory is fleeting and obscurity is eternal. A student recently taught me a lesson about ego. It kind of reminds me of the old cartoon........

We have no way of knowing if the person who we think we are is at the core of our being. Are you a decent person with the potential to someday become an evil dark agent, or are you an evil dark agent that thinks it's a decent person? That's not verbatim but the lesson was that Ego is the monster and when we listen to it we feed it. The lies we tell people are nothing compared to the lies we tell ourselves. I don't think people are born heroes or villains they are shaped by those around them.

A bridge to far

We use martial arts and fitness as a tool to become better human beings, and we do it In an enviorment that cultivates strong relationships with ourselves, and a community of empowered people around us.

    One of the best Christmas messages I got this year was from one of my black belts Dustin. I was 'going through it' over the holidays and he reminded me what loyalty and dedication is.

He said, "I'd jump off a bridge for you sensei."

Of course I never asked him to do that. I, like Joe Lewis asked of me, ......asked him only for 11 minutes, to fight with all his heart not quit. My promise to him in return was that I would teach him for life.

Loyalty and dedication are rare commodities Dustin has both. So many nowadays fall short,there is no love, joy or passion without pain. The path to wisdom is paved by mentors and pain, we provide both.

Cornelius Ryans' book A Bridge Too Far gives an account of Operation Market Garden, a failed Allied attempt to break through German lines at Arnhem in the occupied Netherlands during World War II. The title of the book comes from a comment made by British Lieutenant General Frederick Browning, deputy commander of the First Allied Airborne Army, who told Field Marshal Bernard Montgomery before the operation, "I think we may be going a bridge too far".

In today's world so many attributes we claim to aspire to come with an expiration date, how far is to far when it comes to Honor, Commitment, Love and Respect of a relationship or a goal?

Whether it's dieting, fitness or love, life constantly puts temptations in front of us to test our resolve, loyalty or respect. Discipline and honor to commitment are the basics of self respect. Stick to basics and enjoy life with dignity.

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Notice me Sempai

As our minds turn to the new year, our hope for a new better self becomes resolutions. We are all very conscious of how others view us so our thoughts turn to health and fitness.

 Our thoughts can become goals and our goals turn to reality if we listen to the right 'voice in our head'. Self coaching is key and communication; with ourselves or others is paramount to success in our relationships or achieving our dreams. I recently discovered this while trying to improve my abilities at communication in relationships.

The devil can cite Scripture for his purpose. 

William Shakespeare

In 'the cage' with Lucifer

We are our own worst enemies when it comes to sabotaging our relationships and our resolutions. In this story Ego is the devil and represents negative self talk. By changing frequencies it changes how we hear the messages in our heads.  Sometimes sacrifice is necessary, don't struggle with it embrace it and with the change is the reward. Train 30 minutes minimum most days. Make good food choices portion and supplement. Make sure its fun. Read books, watch videos, write, sing and laugh. When you can laugh at life you become less stressed. Above all eliminate negative 'self talk'.

Both the Devil and the Angelic Spirit present us with objects of desire to awaken our power of choice.

Rumi

On a good day, I can appreciate my journey. I can look in the mirror, see myself, and feel good about the steps I’ve taken, and even the steps I’ve missed along the way.

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The re - broken cup, a parable 'redux'

  Several years ago a Kyoshi saw pieces of a broken cup scattered on the floor. He walked by them many times until one day as if the beautiful broken pieces of lacquer mixed with silver and gold called to him. He believed when something is broken and has suffered damage it has a history,
 a story, and becomes even more beautiful.

  He carefully reassembled the fragments and as he did the light from the cup began to warm his heart.t. He specialized in the Japanese art of fixing broken pottery so this task was not new, but this time some how more significant than others. He poured his heart and soul into the fractured vessel like ‘water’ and there were tears that both cleared his eyes and cleansed his soul. He so loved the cup he wrapped it in silk to protect it from possibly falling again.

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  One day after a rigorous day of training the Kyoshi poured tea in the cup as he did after each workout and it nearly fell from his hand. He felt a knot rise in his stomach, for if he’d dropped his precious cup it might have broken on the hard stone floor and that would have been terrible.

And then the Kyoshi smiled .He changed his mind or default 'settings'

Held out his hand and deliberately dropped the cup and it shattered on the floor.

Why?

He’d realized that the things you possess actually possess you and being attached to objects or negative behaviors is a barrier to the spirit.

And so he let his beloved tea cup go and gained freedom from it.

  Don't be a imprisoned by your goals, be empowered by them. Portioning, cleansing, regular training are a habit. Change your 'default settings'.....it'll change your life.

Life is like Sanchin ;
We draw our breath down from heaven and up from the earth grasping and releasing and grasping again hoping to find balance at our center, a balance of the warrior, the monk and the scholar - ’Mushin’

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