Notice me Sempai

As our minds turn to the new year, our hope for a new better self becomes resolutions. We are all very conscious of how others view us so our thoughts turn to health and fitness.

 Our thoughts can become goals and our goals turn to reality if we listen to the right 'voice in our head'. Self coaching is key and communication; with ourselves or others is paramount to success in our relationships or achieving our dreams. I recently discovered this while trying to improve my abilities at communication in relationships.

The devil can cite Scripture for his purpose. 

William Shakespeare

In 'the cage' with Lucifer

We are our own worst enemies when it comes to sabotaging our relationships and our resolutions. In this story Ego is the devil and represents negative self talk. By changing frequencies it changes how we hear the messages in our heads.  Sometimes sacrifice is necessary, don't struggle with it embrace it and with the change is the reward. Train 30 minutes minimum most days. Make good food choices portion and supplement. Make sure its fun. Read books, watch videos, write, sing and laugh. When you can laugh at life you become less stressed. Above all eliminate negative 'self talk'.

Both the Devil and the Angelic Spirit present us with objects of desire to awaken our power of choice.

Rumi

On a good day, I can appreciate my journey. I can look in the mirror, see myself, and feel good about the steps I’ve taken, and even the steps I’ve missed along the way.

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WHITE LIAR

The truth comes out a little at a time 

And it spreads just like a fire 

Slips off of your tongue like turpentine 

 You better be careful what you do 

I wouldn't wanna be in your shoes 

If they ever found you out 

 It never really added up any way 

You said you went out to a bar 

And walked some lady to her car 

But your face has more to tell 

Cuz my cousin saw you on the street 

With a red head named Bernice 

Turns out you don't lie too well 

Here's a bombshell just for you 

Turns out I've been lying too 

Yeah I'm a white liar 

 -Miranda Lambert-

'White Liar'

  In December of 2013 I decided for the convenience of remote deposit
 and other features to open a bank account with a national bank.

 I had a 'parting of ways' with Bank of America, 

 that left me with Wells Fargo .

 My first visit to the bank was an interesting experience.

I was greeted and treated like royalty.

My teller was a young Russian girl,

when I asked her how to access the 'upgraded features'

I was told I was 'establishing a relationship' with the bank,

and those fantastic features that had attracted me to them

 would be available to me after a year .

It's been a year !!!
And it's Facebook official !!

  Denise Lora Webster Davis says.....

The truth always comes to surface, Honesty starts by being honest with yourself 
 The choices your made im the past got you where you are today.
 Open up your heart and let the truth in for it will set you and those around free 
 and you will start to see a new meaning when you let the love and honesty inside.

I feel compelled to come clean with you my trusted readers.

The whole time I was 'establishing a relationship' with Wells Fargo

I was actually 'maintaining a relationship' on the side with Kennebunk Savings.

Honestly I don't feel I was being dishonest or 'cheating'.

After all a man has to
'MAKE HIS DEPOSITS SOMEWHERE !!!'

Your Dirty 'Ass'

Don't allow the Demons of your past

  unpack their baggage at the door of your future

This is the story of an old donkey and a farmer.

One day the farmers old donkey fell into his well.

Despite repeated attempts the farmer couldn't get the old donkey out of the well.

The well was running dry, and the donkey was old,

 so he decided to fill in the well with the old donkey in it.

The surrounding townspeople came to help but still couldn't lift out the donkey and finally were resigned to helping the farmer to fill in the well with the donkey in it.

The farmer would shovel dirt in the well and the donkey would shake off the dirt

 and then step up onto it until he rose up and actually stepped out of the well.... !

You dont develop courage by being happy

in your relationships everyday.

You develop it by overcoming adversity

 by surviving difficult times

and challenging adversity every day. 

-Epicurus-

O.K. so there might be one more lesson we can learn from this 'ass' .

The donkey bit the farmer in the ass and he got an infection and died.

The first lesson is obvious shake off the dirt and rise 

the second lesson ?

If you try to 'cover your ass' it'll bite you in the but in the end.

The Treachery of the Ambiguous

The complexity and 'truth'  of human contact 

is being replaced with simple, scalable equations,

We maintain hundreds, even thousands more friends

than any human in history, 

at the cost of complexity and depth.

Every minute spent online is 'face-to face' time lost.

-adapted-

by

Robb Buckland

The best of characters are attractive and repulsive at the same time.

I piss alot of people off with my stories because they read themselves into them.

One of the greatest hazards in life is to risk nothing at all.

Living well is to risk dying.

Loving well is to risk rejection.
Being a wordsmith is to risk being 'unfriended & blocked'

All are obstacles you encounter when you take your eyes off  your goal.

Facing and overcoming obstacles and fears
 in the Dojo and the gym gives us the courage 

to face any challenge we'll face in life and love.

Beware the Devil was once an Angel.
He doesn't come to you with a red face and horns, 
he comes to you disguised as everything you ever wanted.

Character is developed through actions.
Positive and negative energy both give off a vibe.
Trust 'the vibe', energy rarely lies.
That 'stomach thing is your 'spider sense'
Trust It !!

Let go, let go of how you thought life should be,
and embrace the life that's trying to break through.

It is not who I am underneath,

 but what I do that defines me.

-Bruce Wayne-

One last thing,......They're just words.

When 3 people have sex it's called a threesome
When two people have sex it's called a twosome
Why do people call me handsome  ??

A Little Karmic Relief

You can't connect the dots looking forward;

You can only do it looking backwards.

You have to trust that the dots will somehow

connect in your future.

You have to trust in something,

your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.

The success of social networking sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter,

involves a desire to keep the natural flow of connections strong.

Social media is a tool for our generation of  business professionals,

just like the phone and fax were for the previous generation.

At some point in the last couple months I opened up an e-mail

that unleashed a virus to my phone, laptop & I-Pod.

I was enduring some 'personal crisises' and was distracted.

I do my best writing while under the spell of the liquid muse.

Mixing up drinks with mixed feelings.

Just when you think your getting a grip,

 reality sneaks up and gives you the slip.

Research shows that the more a person

 in a romantic relationship uses Facebook,

 the more likely they are to monitor their partners

Facebook activity leading to feelings of jealousy.

Social media is relationship kryptonite

She liked a lot of my pics she must like me.

He likes a lot of her posts, he's hitting on her.

His profile pic only got 12 likes and 7 comments,

Mine got 46 likes and  13 comments.

Truth has nothing to do with words.

Truth can be likened to the bright moon in the sky.

Words, can be likened to the finger pointing to the moon.

To look at the moon we need to look passed the finger.

Or we'll miss all the heavenly glory.

-Robb Buckland-

The Huntress 'A Convenient Truth'

To doubt everything or to believe everything

 are two equally convenient solutions;

both dispense with the necessity of reflection.

The great irony of the human condition is that people who are meant to be together 

may not find each other at the proper em

otional time to fully realize the potential 

of their feelings for each other. In the beginning we'll find any excuse to spend time
 with one another, but in time we find 'convenient truths' to use as a catalyst
 to justify time apart or a total dissolution of the relationship.

In fitness 'convenient truths' come in the form of excuses like,

H.I.I.T. is too strenuous, 

CROSS FIT is dangerous.

Free weights will make me look like a body builder.

Power lifting will slow me down.

Yoga is for girls.

Are there things science shouldn't try to explain?

Science is knowledge and knowledge is power,

power to do good or evil.

Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

 -Paul Davies-

H.I.I.T is the fastest way to fitness.

Cross Fit causes muscle confusion that helps push you past  training plateaus.

Steroids make you look like a body builder.

Power lifting enhances explosive movement which enhances 'initial' speed.

Tonight it's raining glass on the forgotten side of town,
as a mind creates the third point of the triangle.
-Robb Buckland-

The Huntress

As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery, we have learned the key to happiness is inner peace.

The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion,

 while love compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.

-Dalai Lama-

In martial arts we employ the warrior, scholar, monk triad

 to guide our training and keep ourselves in balance.

If you go beyond echoing wisdom cliches and really use this principle as a guide,

you'll maximize your self defense skills and empower your life.

Our country employs triad principles in the structure of it's C.I.A.

The C.I.A. triad is, Confidentiality, Integriy and Availability,

three principles that should be guaranteed in any kind of secure system.

If any of the three are breached it can have serious consequences for those involved.

Clarity is a sublime experience but it can't be forced.

Emotional processing is organic, it involves both conscious

 and subconscious processing, and.......... it takes time.

When we are divided by conflicting emotions your brain and heart become a yo-yo.

You go from misery to hours of excitement and planning.

It's even more difficult for control freaks like me,

 because your not just dealing with conflicted feelings but also with

dealing with being overwhelmed by this complete lack of control.

Feelings are not ruled by understanding.

Feelings are ruled by emotions.

As much as the control freak in me may wish otherwise

it's actually a good thing we cant control our emotions because

 thats what makes us human.

Referrals, Refrences and Testimonials

Opinions are like body parts some stink some don't.

In today's business,  and the world of love and relationships, references are key.

Identify what other people are saying or feeling about you or your business,

 and take steps to ensure that the general consensus is in line with your goals.


I just want the money and the fame and the adoration, and I don't want any of the other stuff.
-Mathew Broderick-

Each day you have a choice to create references as you reinforce,

 inspire or create positive change in others.

How would you like to inspire others to.........

• Take greater initiative at home and school?
• Take more responsibility for their actions?
• Value togetherness as a family?
• Consistently treat peers, adults and themselves with respect?
• Be honest even when the truth is difficult to share?
• Courageously face fears and persist through challenges?
• Be less influenced by negative peer pressure 
• Be more able to stand up for what they believe in?

In relationships 'he said she said' is not uncommon .

It's even more common when one side feels scorned !

Expect conflicting reports from two or more parties on most issues
between men and women when there are no other witnesses. 

Celebrate Those Who Inspire

Echo of greatness

I made an oath to Joe Lewis that his profound influence on my life,
training and personal development would echo in eternity.

Mr. Lewis,
 beyond being the greatest fighter of all time was a self developed intellectual.
He understood that the cognitive / meta physical produced the physical.
He shared that attributes must be aligned with thoughtful expressive purpose.
Above all else in life through his personal development journey,
 he focused on producing intellectual fighters.

Joe Lewis   &   Dennis Nackard

He expressed through action, writing, and conversation his distaste for individuals 

whom were unable to express themselves from the trapping

s of regimented activities and groups.

This theme carried through his coaching, political discourse and friendships.

Joe Lewis was an independent individual,

 this made his greatness by example that much more powerful.

There is no need to connect his legacy through comparison.

He was his own shining beacon as much as any other legendary

 Martial Artist / Scientist.

Mr. Lewis studied, 

lived and expressed his spirit at a level only reached by a few contemporaries,

Bruce Lee, Mike Stone, Chuck Norris and Bill Wallace.

Joe Lewis was a proud Marine,

 He often paid tribute to his training in the Marine Corps and 

traditional Okinawan Arts.

From this foundation he built an independent process

 by which he and others he mentored from could launch themselves

 into an expression of self through their own independent intrinsic spirit.

-Ian Marshall-

Who are you when im not looking ?

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”
 - Dr. Seuss -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0xXD9-1mLBY

  On the inside I know what I really want.

 I know what my values are.

 My ambition must not get in in the way.
Around me, things are falling apart;
 within me,
 they're falling together.

I've learned when you don’t understand your emotions;
you have only a limited capacity for self-respect,
 and you don’t have healthy relationships with people.

It's interesting the stories that we make up about who we are,
what we’re capable of, and what’s achievable or not.

The big question then becomes,
 how can we change our state of mind when not maximizing our true potential?

Tony Robbins poses an interesting question......
The toughest thing about chasing your dreams is managing the disciplines of persistent action and hopeful patience that are required to ultimately see the vision come to be.
This is an area of huge tension.
 How do dream chasers manage that tension and thrive?

After an exhausting weekend with the former Mikki Buckland,
 it is definitely time to move on.
In a book I read called The Energy Bus it talks about people like Mikki.
They're called Energy Vampires !!!

As human "beings" we all make mistakes...

We'd all do things differently......

 had we known then what we know now.

 What matters now is what you do now.

Let go of guilt. Let go of shame. Let go of blame.

This is "being" in the moment.

This is an empowered human being—the empowered YOU.

-Mike Klinger-