One door closes

When you try to tackle one change or goal your success rate is over 80%. 

When you try to tackle multiple changes/goals your success rate drops to less than 35%. 

WITH STATISTICS LIKE THAT I'D SAY ONE DOOR AT A TIME, ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Today marked the begining of our 630am 'Primal Crawl' class.

1st day and it was a success !

Success is waking up each morning and consciously deciding today will be the best day of your life. You can't change the past, but you can change perspective.

I think it;s all about knocking on doors, taking a chance. By activating a perspective change and just showing up all things become possible.

If you don’t consciously choose Faith, Trust and Love in each moment, your subconscious 'default settings' will choose for you, and that choice is made by the Ego and it usually chooses Hope and Fear..

 At Fearless Family Martial Arts we free people from their concerns; Health,Fitness, Nutrition and Fun ....we always have Fun. take a chance on Faith this year join our journey

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At a gym or on your own you can only Hope your fitness plan will work

    It's easy and comfortable to think you're eating healthy "most of the time."

It's easy and comfortable to just buy the gym membership. 

Easy is comfortable. 

No change is made while being comfortable.

A bridge to far

We use martial arts and fitness as a tool to become better human beings, and we do it In an enviorment that cultivates strong relationships with ourselves, and a community of empowered people around us.

    One of the best Christmas messages I got this year was from one of my black belts Dustin. I was 'going through it' over the holidays and he reminded me what loyalty and dedication is.

He said, "I'd jump off a bridge for you sensei."

Of course I never asked him to do that. I, like Joe Lewis asked of me, ......asked him only for 11 minutes, to fight with all his heart not quit. My promise to him in return was that I would teach him for life.

Loyalty and dedication are rare commodities Dustin has both. So many nowadays fall short,there is no love, joy or passion without pain. The path to wisdom is paved by mentors and pain, we provide both.

Cornelius Ryans' book A Bridge Too Far gives an account of Operation Market Garden, a failed Allied attempt to break through German lines at Arnhem in the occupied Netherlands during World War II. The title of the book comes from a comment made by British Lieutenant General Frederick Browning, deputy commander of the First Allied Airborne Army, who told Field Marshal Bernard Montgomery before the operation, "I think we may be going a bridge too far".

In today's world so many attributes we claim to aspire to come with an expiration date, how far is to far when it comes to Honor, Commitment, Love and Respect of a relationship or a goal?

Whether it's dieting, fitness or love, life constantly puts temptations in front of us to test our resolve, loyalty or respect. Discipline and honor to commitment are the basics of self respect. Stick to basics and enjoy life with dignity.

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The re - broken cup, a parable 'redux'

  Several years ago a Kyoshi saw pieces of a broken cup scattered on the floor. He walked by them many times until one day as if the beautiful broken pieces of lacquer mixed with silver and gold called to him. He believed when something is broken and has suffered damage it has a history,
 a story, and becomes even more beautiful.

  He carefully reassembled the fragments and as he did the light from the cup began to warm his heart.t. He specialized in the Japanese art of fixing broken pottery so this task was not new, but this time some how more significant than others. He poured his heart and soul into the fractured vessel like ‘water’ and there were tears that both cleared his eyes and cleansed his soul. He so loved the cup he wrapped it in silk to protect it from possibly falling again.

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  One day after a rigorous day of training the Kyoshi poured tea in the cup as he did after each workout and it nearly fell from his hand. He felt a knot rise in his stomach, for if he’d dropped his precious cup it might have broken on the hard stone floor and that would have been terrible.

And then the Kyoshi smiled .He changed his mind or default 'settings'

Held out his hand and deliberately dropped the cup and it shattered on the floor.

Why?

He’d realized that the things you possess actually possess you and being attached to objects or negative behaviors is a barrier to the spirit.

And so he let his beloved tea cup go and gained freedom from it.

  Don't be a imprisoned by your goals, be empowered by them. Portioning, cleansing, regular training are a habit. Change your 'default settings'.....it'll change your life.

Life is like Sanchin ;
We draw our breath down from heaven and up from the earth grasping and releasing and grasping again hoping to find balance at our center, a balance of the warrior, the monk and the scholar - ’Mushin’

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THE SIGN POST UP AHEAD

On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.

-Anonymous-

The New Year is coming , time for resolutions change and rebirth.

The most common is the elimination of bad habits and a commitment to get fit.

Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.

- Jim Rohn- 

Healthy diet and physical activity are the first two steps 

The difference between a short term habit and a long term goal is really,

 a matter of goal setting, writing them down and most importantly sticking to it. 

Life is like a card game; it's not so much the cards your delt but how you play them. 

Overnight success is a myth . Slow and steady wins the race.

Think smart not hard.

Coach Tony Blauer talks about reverse engineering a fight or an ambush 

to create a more accurate training model. This method is called science. 

If we reverse engineer our own life experience we are more likely to succeed

than hoping for a magic bullet or a first responder to sweep us from

 the arms of danger or failure. Fear of failure, success or even the unknown 

is the single greatest cause of failure, in life, love or self defense .

Fear is a normal human emotion. It is not in itself a killer. We can learn to be aware when fear grips us, and can train to operate through and in spite of our fear. If, on the other hand, we don’t understand that fear is normal and has to be controlled and overcome, it will paralyze us and stop us in our tracks. We will no longer think clearly or rationally. We prepare for it and control it; we never let it control us.

-Gen Colin Powell-

Knowing what you can and can't control allows focus on one task with laser precision and see it through rather than 'shotgun blasting' all the obstacles at once, leaving most unfinished.Along the way you'll sacrifice some things that in the end will seem insignificant compared to the achievement of your goal. In other words , you'll sacrifice little to achieve much.

The Haters

This year I learned a valuable lesson about all successful people,they have haters.
Having a growing number of haters means your doing something significantNo matter what not everyone is going to like you especially if you are authentic.

The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing. My friend Allison is constantly 'Banning the snowflakes' on her FB page.

The future is a blank page, there are no secrets or guaranties  for success only hard work, preperation, dedication and the willingness to get back up seven times after failing six.

-Buckland-

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Hide & Seek

Succeed or fail at our process there are two sets of footprints in the sand.

In fitness, life love and martial arts we hit plateaus and we meet with failures,
It's not trying that is unacceptable.
There is nothing wrong with celebrating success
but true victory comes from heeding the lessons of failure.

Again this week suffering from writers block I turned to

 Denise 'Blogger of the Heart' Davis, who said,

Expecting better relationships by doing the same thing over and over is failing. 
If you want true, unconditional love there's only 'ONE' who can give you that.
Everyone else will fail you at some point in your life.
At your lowest points it's frustrating to only see one set of foot prints in the sand.

I've been blessed with a large pool of mentors.
Each time I hit a 'sticking point' I turn to one for explanation and / or motivation.
More often than not the 'truth' we seek is not as mysterious
 as most would have you believe.The 'trick' is to not 'buy the popcorn'.

In sales we say 'keep it simple stupid'.
Art Rabesas' explanation of 'power in-fighting' is the same.


Simple - Direct - having 'Violence of Action'

Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.

 In the mean time we should behold the rain that descends on our vineyards,

 it enters the roots of the vines and changes into wine;
 A constant proof that God loves us, and loves to see us happy.
 The rest will work itself out with trial and error ....

after all we are human and mistakes are what we do.

Mr Right or Just Mr Right now ?

So often in life we settle for what we can get rather than what we really want.


I'm at work, just after Black Friday...........
 not the best time of year to be in the Timeshare sales industry.
 Definitely the worst time for marketing for this industry.

It's said to be a success in sales all you have to do is talk to a lot of people,

what is potentially exciting about that is there are lots of people.

Now don't get me wrong,

 I understand that for every sale you miss because of your enthusiasm,

 you miss a hundred more from lacking enthusiasm. 

It's hard to be enthusiastic about a 40 something woman

 with disheveled hair and an English accent (unless she's in your bed, lol),

But, when it's your only customer for the day ....on a SATURDAY !!
Lawd help us !!!

I'm questioning the viability of this job.
There is no passion to be found in playing small,
just settling for a life that's less than the one you are capable of living.

Regret has a way of staring you in the face ......

I think the greater danger is in not aiming too high.
In life like in golf why settle for a bogey when you can shoot for an eagle.
Two words that nevered settled well with me are maturity and content.
I think they 'spell' decay ......

Obviously stymied by my 'right now' choice of employment ........
I've turned too the lovely and talented aspiring blogger Holly Arland
 for her take on this topic based on her experience.

Saddling up, settling down, or just settling?

Mr. Right, Mr. Wrong, or Mr. Right now?

Why does this cowgirl read the body language of a 1200 lb majestic creature,
 but sees the body language of a man as a foreign ?

 Is the man as confused by the signals that emanate from him  ?

 Is it the distance he sets, the moral he lacks,

 or the sexy scent he puts off that confuses me?

Horses lack the capability of being deceitful for personal gain

 but have a sense of survival most humans thirst for !

 People seem to lack the moralistic capability of honesty and loyalty. 

So how is a high - minded woman like  myself supposed to identify

 Mr. Right, Mr. Wrong, Mr. Right Now

 or

My, Mr. after 9 years  going to leave you alone in a world.....

A world which was created for two…. by two ?

What qualities prevail over the others? 

How do I rope a cowboy who will, compliment and balance me?

 What scale do I use? 

Am I searching for what's nonexistent or undeserved by yours truly? 

What is the definition of settling? 

Do I settle for the first thing that trots this way,
 like a horse with no gait? 

It's an ugly, uncomfortable ride . 

  Can I break a man like a wild horse and eventually call him my cowboy?

 What's the difference between settling for less
and compromising oneself?

 Forget settling down I am saddling up….
 Where are my boots??

My BFFL Gabby says....

Whether it be with work or romance,
everybody expects there to always be a right answer or "Mr. Right".

 When you take a look back and try to explain how you got where you
are there is no straight and narrow road.

 Life is full of mistakes and experiences and its not those situations that can answer your questions but how you reacted and your attitude.

 People like to blame Mr. Wrong on the man himself,
 but obviously what he does works for him and what he is trying to accomplish.

 Mr. Right Now is a forced action.

 They are the person that is placed in front of you
when you are looking for something specific.
 The funny thing about life is
 that the best things happen when they are least expected.

 Stop looking!!!

 Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now are a figurative concept imagined by people who feel that there questions always have to have an answer.

 Focus on yourself and things you love; your job, riding horses, martial arts, golf ...

Build yourself up and not what you are looking for, but what you need will just appear.
 Don't spend your life wondering or worrying spend your life living.

 When you are ready life will know.