The Walk of Shame

In music they call it a 'one hit wonder'.
Like Soft Cells'  Tainted Love.

Buster Douglas is a great example in the 'fight game'.

A 42/1 underdog handed Tyson his first professional defeat in 1990.
or 
Leon Spinks defeat of Mohammad Ali in 1978
Spinks career record 26 wins 17 losses making the Ali victory
a kinda one hit wonder....

As far as life and love goes, we all know our share of 'walking travesties'.
We see them out at the local pub or hear their whispered stories
on the mat at the gym or by the water cooler, their lives a succession of 
'Walks of shame'.

As always in my musings I avoid the obvious, I leave it to you the reader to imply it.

One of my early karate teachers discouraged me from going to tournaments.
He told me that the rules were designed to eliminate the strengths 
of our style...specifically 'the grab'.

Joe Lewis encouraged what he called 'limitation sparring'.
A drill where you would eliminate one or more of your 'Aces'.
The idea was to enhance tactical efficacy in the event of injury or 'bad rules'.

Arthur Rabesa has such drills both on you tube, and his website.

I took 'the walk of shame' from many early tournaments.

I believed 'the master'....

I left those tournaments feeling weak and used after successive defeats.
I lost so many times my friend Tom didn't wanna go any more haha !

Roosevelt said,
It's far better to dare mighty things, 
To win glorious triumphs,
even though checkered by failure.....

Something had to change.
Joe lewis had always told me that he didn't have much respect for fighters
that were under 200 pounds. I was only 170 !!
A slow middleweight .... but I'd be a fast heavyweight.

After a tournament in my hometown of Pittsfield , MA
a referee came to me and said your gonna have to really hit your opponent
if you want to get the win. They are watching they're guys NOT YOU.

Lesson Learned !

With the help of a friend Dave Sinopoli (weight training advice)
 and boxing coach Dickie Eklund (footwork).

 I Lifted & 'Danced' (footwork drills), my way to 208 pounds
 Now I could hit like a heavyweight move like a lightweight !


Let me be strong enough to know when I am weak,
and brave enough to face myself when I am afraid,
Let me be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
 and humble and gentle in victory.

-Robb Buckland-

WHITE LIAR

The truth comes out a little at a time 

And it spreads just like a fire 

Slips off of your tongue like turpentine 

 You better be careful what you do 

I wouldn't wanna be in your shoes 

If they ever found you out 

 It never really added up any way 

You said you went out to a bar 

And walked some lady to her car 

But your face has more to tell 

Cuz my cousin saw you on the street 

With a red head named Bernice 

Turns out you don't lie too well 

Here's a bombshell just for you 

Turns out I've been lying too 

Yeah I'm a white liar 

 -Miranda Lambert-

'White Liar'

  In December of 2013 I decided for the convenience of remote deposit
 and other features to open a bank account with a national bank.

 I had a 'parting of ways' with Bank of America, 

 that left me with Wells Fargo .

 My first visit to the bank was an interesting experience.

I was greeted and treated like royalty.

My teller was a young Russian girl,

when I asked her how to access the 'upgraded features'

I was told I was 'establishing a relationship' with the bank,

and those fantastic features that had attracted me to them

 would be available to me after a year .

It's been a year !!!
And it's Facebook official !!

  Denise Lora Webster Davis says.....

The truth always comes to surface, Honesty starts by being honest with yourself 
 The choices your made im the past got you where you are today.
 Open up your heart and let the truth in for it will set you and those around free 
 and you will start to see a new meaning when you let the love and honesty inside.

I feel compelled to come clean with you my trusted readers.

The whole time I was 'establishing a relationship' with Wells Fargo

I was actually 'maintaining a relationship' on the side with Kennebunk Savings.

Honestly I don't feel I was being dishonest or 'cheating'.

After all a man has to
'MAKE HIS DEPOSITS SOMEWHERE !!!'

Rotting on the Vine

Time you enjoy wasting, is not time wasted.
Iv'e been through 2 legal pads of notes trying to make this damn thing perfect.

At least I'm laughing at myself and my 'OCD shotgun' approach to this. 

I feel like a day spent without laughing would really be a wasted one.
At least I'm doing that !!!

Trying to live with a sense of urgency often makes things seem overwhelming.
Sometimes it's better when things aren't perfect.
At least that way you know 'it's' real.
Creativity, is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art, is knowing which ones to keep.

I'm working on a DVD project with one of my mentors, Art Rabesa.
We are highlighting Arts' encyclopedic knowledge of Power In-Fighting and training methodologies with an R.M.A. twist ......FEARS style !!!

Excellence is attainable, but perfection ?
In our profession, precision and perfection are not dispensable luxuries,
 they're necessary attributes.

I was doing my weighted walk through the cemetery today.
Leaves were blowing everywhere, Summer's death has completely given way
 to the decay of Fall: now too soon replaced by Winters frosty grip.

It reminded me of how we all hope for breakthrough rebirth moments.
My training went through a renaissance after experiencing the power of Art Rabesa.

Art said something interesting during a recent phone conversation.
He said, "I don't need to hurt anyone for them to learn this 'stuff'. "

O.K. but I sure remember pain......
I think we gain wisdom from mentors and pain and Art Rabesa provides both.
I'm sure thankful for it too because the experience changed 'my martial art' forever.

In Martial Arts, Fitness, Life and Love were are searching for
someone or something whose 'demons' will play well with ours. 

Arts' 'demons' play well with mine

Don't ask me to remember

Don't ask me to remember,

Don't try to make me understand,

I'm confused beyond your concept,

I'm sad and sick and lost,

I can rest knowing your with me,

All I know is that I need you,

to be with me at all cost.

Our Government is bought and corrupt.

It uses the courage and valor of the men and women in it's service to be 

'The worlds bully'  to serve it's own twisted agenda.

Yet, I will always take of my hat, put my hand on my heart,

and salute our service persons for their willingness to fight and protect

our constitution and the liberty of others.

Joseph Camppbell said it beautifully:

 The term hero is thrown around more often than it actually should be,

but you will know a real hero when you see one.

They are people who do something for the greater good in an unselfish act..

Three great forces rule our world:

Stupidity Fear and Greed.

-Albert Einstien-