THE SINS OF EXCESS....GLUTTONY

"Gluttony"

I get it started and then I'm broken hearted
'Cause I can't get a hold of the beast
It's like I'm blind, I'm running out of time
And everything I crave is out of reach

You say I drink too much,
 you say I fuck too much
So what the hell am I supposed to do?

I take a dive and medicate my mind
'Cause I hate what I fucking see
It's all a grind, we're filling up our time
With the rules of society

You say I eat too much,
 you say I smoke too much

What the fuck am I supposed to do?
I wanna die and kill my dirty mind

-Buckcherry-

Where is my ball gag ? 

We live the predominant part of our lives obsessed about our fitness, our Martial arts , 

and especially our relationships; over thinking, over training, and over reacting..

 I remember the bars on the windows obscuring the view of the 

beautiful blue moon light.

I've missed plenty of opportunities because of bad judgement,

Often though, it is difficult because more often than not you are the only one who sees 

the evil and the underhandedness while everyone else is blind to it.

I spent alot  of time reflecting my actions, missing many 

opportunities because of my stubbornness or ignorance.

We create the prison of our mind through superstition,

 dependence on the advice of damaged people

 and our own fear of personal failure

 due to our knowledge of who we truly are inside.

The only thing a man/woman need fear

 is what they know about themselves inside.

-Clint Eastwood-

"That's The Way The World Goes 'Round"

I know a gal that's got a lot to lose
She's a pretty nice lady, kinda confused
Got muscles in her head, ain't never been used
Thinks she owns half of this town

Starts drinking heavy, gets a big red nose
She beats her old man with her panty hose
Then she takes him out, buys him new clothes

I was sitting in the tub just counting my toes
When the radiator broke and the water froze
I got stuck in the ice without any clothes
Naked as the eyes of a clown

I was crying ice cubes, hoping that I'd croak
When the sun come through the window and the ice all broke
I said "son of a gun", man, that's just a joke

One minute you're up and the next you're down
Got a half an inch of water and you think you're gonna drown
That's the way that the world goes 'round

-Miranda Lambert-

We were talking about 'damaged people' and how everyone was to one degree or another; and my friend Jerry says,
 'There are plenty of psychotic fish in the sea.'

I'm thinking, 'O.K. I'm not a 'fisherman so let them  swim on by !!!'

You Will encounter all kinds of 'wack jobs'

in sales , martial arts and fitness...Stay safe, love yourself  and

TRUST YOUR JUDGEMENT.

Let us not forget 'Grimms' Rapunzel 

who's indiscretions left her destitute.

External beauty, in speech and appearance will eventually

expose it's true essence. That essence will be their down fall.

Like the 'Stones' song says time is on your side.......

If that's not enough look to the  'Art of War'.

"A warrior must have the patience to wait  by the river

for the bodies of their enemies to float by."

More often than not after sharing your knowledge, resources

 or just your heart, you will be disappointed.

A warrior doesn't quit they persevere.

I've been disappointed , misled in about every endeavor I undertook.

A champion gets knocked down 5 times and gets up 6

I've used bad judgement in most aspects of my life ...

Understand the benchmark to your personal success

is unity and loyalty and perseverance.

Choose your 'TEAM' wisely !

A Little Karmic Relief

You can't connect the dots looking forward;

You can only do it looking backwards.

You have to trust that the dots will somehow

connect in your future.

You have to trust in something,

your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.

The success of social networking sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter,

involves a desire to keep the natural flow of connections strong.

Social media is a tool for our generation of  business professionals,

just like the phone and fax were for the previous generation.

At some point in the last couple months I opened up an e-mail

that unleashed a virus to my phone, laptop & I-Pod.

I was enduring some 'personal crisises' and was distracted.

I do my best writing while under the spell of the liquid muse.

Mixing up drinks with mixed feelings.

Just when you think your getting a grip,

 reality sneaks up and gives you the slip.

Research shows that the more a person

 in a romantic relationship uses Facebook,

 the more likely they are to monitor their partners

Facebook activity leading to feelings of jealousy.

Social media is relationship kryptonite

She liked a lot of my pics she must like me.

He likes a lot of her posts, he's hitting on her.

His profile pic only got 12 likes and 7 comments,

Mine got 46 likes and  13 comments.

Truth has nothing to do with words.

Truth can be likened to the bright moon in the sky.

Words, can be likened to the finger pointing to the moon.

To look at the moon we need to look passed the finger.

Or we'll miss all the heavenly glory.

-Robb Buckland-

And We All Fall Down

While we are busy managing mixed emotions during conflict 

we often forget that the other person is going through the same thing.

Ring around a Rosie's,

A Pocket Full of Posies,

Ashes Ashes We All Fall Down

Ashes on the Water, Ashes on the Sea

We all Jump up with a One, Two, Three !

Sounds like a harmless childrens' story .

The first verse refers to death at the hands of the 'Black Plauge'.

The roses were to cover the smell of ensuing death.

The last verse refers to resurrection.

I remember feeling anxious every time I went in the ring, like it was the first time.
Even though I was in superior condition and the crowd was on my side.

We need to be absolute in our knowledge of

our capabilities and limitations.

 We need to know the enemy

Pre attack indicators, common tactics, and deceptions.

Those who forget the lessons of the past

 are doomed to relive them.

In training we repeat the same patterns,

 the same exercises expecting a different result.

In relationships the grass is greener, that is till we all fall down.

Then we resurrect ourselves and blindly try to find a solution

 by recreating the same situation expecting a different result.

The percentage of phrases used to heal a relationship,

 give way to those that will likely destroy it.

Even by ending the relationship in time to avoid further damage,

 the negative patterns return over and over in each ensuing relationship.

In the end were all just 7 pints of blood in a meat suit,
so if you don't mind it don't matter.
-Robb Buckland-

The definition of insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over expecting a different result.

-Albert Einstein-

Apparently I told this quote to a friend and she quoted it back to me....

Trust and loyalty are a rare commodity these days.
They are building blocks for love and friendship.

When the Captain asks you to walk the plank on the pirate ship
only trust the mate that never looked back   !

The Huntress : The Face of Fear

Learn your way around your emotions.
Make a map of them.
Welcome to the human experience.

Never use someones emotions as a scratching post

 for your own yearnings.

Adapted from a quote by

-Elizabeth Gilbert-

  Fight and flight responses assume a wide range of behaviors.

 The fight response may be manifested in angry, argumentative behavior,

 The flight response may be manifested through social withdrawal,

 substance abuse, and even television viewing....lol

Be careful who you trust 

The Devil was once an Angel

The mapping of human emotions reveals a strong mind body connection

FEARS training has A.S.R.(Adrenal Stress Response) drills .

We inoculate the trainee to the effects of the 'Chemical Cocktail' .

The goal is to familiarize the trainee with the effects of

 'the adrenalin dump' that occurs during a conflict.

In sales the issues I deal with stem from poor relationships

 between managers (people with titles) and the people they manage.

Trust is such a huge word.............

 it either means something,

or destroys it.

Deep caring comes easily at a relationship’s beginning.

 Lust and novelty keep us attentive to each other when we fall in love.

 It’s in the next phase, when routines and irritations set in, 

that protective love is tested.

 Deep connectedness, feeling our partner’s triumphs/setbacks as ours,

 is a hallmark of the early stages of love.

 We're careful with our words and behavior and take care not to hurt the other.

Remaining this attuned to a partner takes energy and commitment.

The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.

-Vince Lombardi-

God, Family, Country

God, Family, Country...

Someone to look up to,
Someone to lean on,
Something to stand on.

-Zig Ziglar -

New Years Eve         2013

I was really gonna just stay home with the pups and a bottle of wine ..Really  !
My friend Diane called and said she had tickets for an evening out  !!
...And so it began New Years Eve at a gay bar !!!

 

Crimes of hatred and prejudice from lynchings, cross burnings,

vandalism of synagogues, school shootings, racial, gender, 

and bias based on sexuality are a sad fact of American history.

 

 I did a karaoke duet with a guy  (he did the girls part),

 A jealous male friend of his then tore off his shirt and began taunting

my 'co-star'......

I have zero tolerance for bullying.

I wanted to' handle my co-stars'  problem...
 he was terrified by this and left before I could make his attacker 'appologize'.
It takes time to realize that all your “problems” don't define you.

I understand also that....
 'Sheep' are sometimes as  terrified of the 'Sheepdog' as they are of the 'Wolf' 
We are always striving to get someplace else.
 All of us.
The 'Sheep', the 'Wolf' and the 'Sheepdog'.

It frustrates me sometimes that so many just don't see that our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as being able to remake ourselves.

There are times that we grow frustrated, upset, angry and sad.
 There are also moments of elation, excitement, passion, and calm.
 There are times to push harder and times to take rest.
 Our hearts can race and sometimes we just have to have a laugh at ourselves.

If we put aside our fear and hatred and just be;
  and trust ...............the answers will come.